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15 Life Lessons You Don’t Have To Learn The Hard Way
We are growing up watching our kids. Watching every move they make. We look at their achievements sometimes and hope to be just like them, sometimes we look at their mistakes and hope to be nothing like them. While it’s true, we’re learning from the people around us… some things you’ve got to experience to learn from them.
HERE ARE 15 LIFE LESSONS YOU DON’T HAVE TO LEARN THE HARD WAY
1. How you allow yourself to be treated, is the way people will treat you.
If you let that person walk over and over you, never expect them to change in any way. They will continue to walk on you until you stand up and demand respect. You probably won’t like that too much, but once the next person comes along and looks at you and sees something else than the fool you might take advantage of you, you’ll feel a heck a lot better.
2. You’re going to get your heart broken. Again, and again, and just when you think there’s no way you can take it anymore, again.
It will come from the kid that you were anticipating, the guy that was your best friend, the girl you felt you cherished. You are going to regret this, you are going to cry, you are going to hate yourself and hate you for it. Remember all the people who hurt you because they learned lessons.
3. Keep positive people around you.
The people who wish you the best should be part of your “gang.” If someone doesn’t improve your life, so quickly give them up. If you’ve met them for 20 years it doesn’t matter. If they don’t take you up, they drag you down. Take them out of your life, and see how far you are going up. You’re best off alone than with someone who is pessimistic.
4. Stop trying to act like you’re okay when you’re not.
That’s like having someone else inside your brain grow a ticking time bomb. You never know when it will explode, and after you burst into tears at work in your manager’s office for the first time, you will realize that all that emotion turns to poison the longer you let it build up.
5. Some people are always going to be cruel, but that doesn’t mean you have to be too.
You don’t always see others as rivals and if you know that your life becomes much simpler. Rather, look at other people as potential allies who excel, because if we are honest, we’re all in the same boat together. Destroy them with love, even though on the world it seems to be the hardest thing. If you are polite, pleasant and kind they can no longer tell you bad things.
6. The last place you should turn to when trying to get over a difficult breakup is the arms of a stranger.
Believe me, you won’t feel happier if you welcome someone who isn’t the one you really like. You’re going to spend all this time contrasting this guy that you’re trying too hard to persuade yourself you’re in, to the one that broke your heart. And you or them are not fair about that. Don’t. Do not.
7. Stop comparing your life to the lives of those you follow on social media.
You can’t compare the highs of their life to your lowest moments. It doesn’t work like that and no matter how perfect their images are, I know they have as many issues as you do. Stop feeling “damaged” because you let social media convince you never get good enough. Turn off your computer, enjoy the good stuff about your life, and don’t get too wrapped up in something that’s weird anyway.
8. Take 100% responsibility for your life.
Make no excuses for why things don’t work for you or why you’re not where you want to be. You are the only person responsible for your life. Should not spend a second criticizing someone because it is a waste of time. If you want your life changed, it’s up to you, and no one else.
9. Confidence isn’t usually something that comes naturally.
You have to really fake it until it’s true. And square your head, take pride in your appearance and the body that you have. If you do this for a long time, a kind of infectious self-esteem eventually builds up. Even if you don’t always love all about yourself, you’re still good enough. Understanding that will improve this.
10. You can’t date your best friend unless you are fully prepared to lose their friendship if things don’t work out.
I don’t matter who you are, even if you end things on the best terms, it’s not easy to go right back to being the best friends after a divorce. There’ll be emotions and anger and it gets messy all over. It’s awkward and is going to make you miss them. Tread carefully.
11. It is impossible to control every aspect of your life, and if you try, you will self-destruct.
You just have to let your life come to you sometimes, and get along with what you are given. Stand firm in your beliefs, morals and dreams, but don’t try to control everything in your life as stress is a very toxic thing. That can make you sick physically. Take it from someone who knows–look after yourself.
12. You will lose friends. Lots of them.
They’re going to change, you’re going to change too, you’re going to fight, you’re going to grow apart. Once you reach high school, the people on your team won’t be the same ones you share any second of college with. Should not hang on to transient citizens too tightly. We would be if we were to be permanent.
13. You can’t change the past, and trying to rewrite it will only get you in trouble.
Consider what’s happened to you, because if you don’t, they are things that people who want to harm can use against you very quickly. And there’s nothing worse than someone visiting because reopening a traumatic memory’s wound if they feel the need to make you feel inferior.
14. If you don’t stand true to yourself and become your own person, you will get lost in the shuffle.
Even though with judgmental comments and snide looks all will tell you differently, it’s better to stand out than to blend in. Nobody really blends in, this is all an illusion. Don’t give up on it, don’t adhere to the practices of those who aren’t comfortable enough to be one in a million, and never let them persuade you why you can’t be your own.
15. The answer to all of your questions is not at the bottom of that bottle of cheap raspberry flavored vodka.
No amount of booze you’re not allowed to have will cover the hole in your heart, and you’ll know that those fourteen shots didn’t make your issues any easier to solve when you’re lying on the bathroom floor in what’s-his-face cellar, dizzy and sick to your stomach.
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